Age is just a number if you have not grown through life rather you've just gone through it, but for women (men too these days) this is the top secret and they just don't want to go beyond a certain figure! yeah! they want to stay young all their life! Being your own age makes you more attractive if the purpose is to be 'attractive forever'!
It makes me wonder that after all what are the solid reasons that make women age conscious?, why would they try to remain trapped in a younger age? The motivation behind this post is interaction with such people! and again this is post is a light one not meant to ridicule anyone just give my personal views which could be wrong as well.
[Note: the reason I am using the words 'they', 'them' and not using 'us' is that Alhamdulillah I am not age conscious being 25 and ready to turn 26 any moment!]
1. The most obvious one: They would like to live forever, so, are we Muslims? The aim should be to try and stay fit for good deeds.
2. Being attractive forever, I think we need to redefine 'attraction' and 'beauty' because I feel that beauty of a person needs to be understood than just be seen. Beauty is not just one thing called appearance. As for attraction the people you carry themselves according to their age are more attractive than those reverting to a younger age.
3. The probably think that old age would deprive them of the blessings of youth, I feel that every stage of your life is better than the previous one provided you grow through your experiences and discover the charm of every age. It is a fact that you' re bound to move towards decline its a law of nature that cannot be avoided but only accepted as something from Allah.
4. A very common argument "Dil jawan hona chahiya" meaning that you should be young at heart. it is not the figure called age that makes you dull or lifeless with time, it is your reaction to happenings that makes us so, so the heart should be strong and filled with Allah's love to be full of life forever! ready to forego anything anywhere for HIS sake, the confidence you get with such a sense is the real confidence which would never let you become lifeless!
5. The most horrible reason is to increase your 'market value' in order to get married! Well, commitments should be based on truth alone other wise such commitments are bound to break, and also harm the families involved. If someone has to reject you based on your 'specifications' then its best to be rejected!
Eagerly looking forward to comments and criticism!
philosopher Lady. me agrees
ReplyDeleteThat's right Arfa, it's best when we start acting out age. Staying fit and healthy, and refraining from negative thoughts and actions make us look younger than our age, so it is always better to tell the truth and get a pleasant reply..."areh, ap lagti tou nai" :P ...
ReplyDeleteand i think it is not entirely their fault, i mean, our elders and elders of our elders...they kind of create such an environment, later it seeps into our culture...that females are conditioned to act this way....but using one's head doesn't harm and accepting facts eventually leads to harmony. Besides a lot of energy,time and dignity gets wasted in fake plays...and if identified with true picture, embarrassment and a reputation follows...
i'm 28 by the way :P
totally agree... i agree im 25 n proud.. an auntie jee d other day asked me abou my age n i told her im 25 then obv her next question was are u married. I said no.. and she went "ohhoo bechaari tut tut tut.. challo koi baat nahi Allah Malik hai... ho jaayegi tumhari bhi" and basically did proper afsoos as if i lost a limb or something lol
ReplyDeletetotally agree... i agree im 25 n proud.. an auntie jee d other day asked me abou my age n i told her im 25 then obv her next question was are u married. I said no.. and she went "ohhoo bechaari tut tut tut.. challo koi baat nahi Allah Malik hai... ho jaayegi tumhari bhi" and basically did proper afsoos as if i lost a limb or something lol
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